Oh Uranus, rebellious, innovative, eccentric, ingenious Uranus, sending it’s lightning bolts of sudden and unexpected change, what mayhem can you bring so we can pull order from it?
When Uranus approached my first house, which contains my Aries Sun and Aries Mercury, I thought,
“Hmph, let’s see what you’ve got Uranus, what change are you going to bring to my identity, personality and the way I shine my Light on the World, how will you electrify the way I communicate or completely change it?”
Resistance is futile, whether you like it or not, change is coming, so you better buckle up and try to be open minded when Uranus arrives…or be sucked up into a tornado of chaos and shock.
Life was pretty stable as Uranus crept closer, I was in a long term relationship, which was fraying around the edges, business was good, well established and enjoying a reliable reputation, my dance classes were busy and the Think Tank Workshops a friend of mine and I were putting on got great reviews. The social and professional status earned over the years was enjoyable and solid.
All the family lived in the same city and having lunch and coffee with them was regular and important. Treasure from close friendship was ever cherished and sharing curry after work, laughing, discussing the latest conspiracy conference we’d been to was memorable, delicious Soul food.
What was Uranus going to do to this cosy, productive life of mine? Bring it on Uranus, Bring it on.
The first Uranian lightning bolt hit early 2011 as Uranus passed over my Pisces Ascendant on its way to Aries and my first house.
It had been a busy day, my then boyfriend had moved in, we’d lived in our own homes for most of our relationship as it worked for us, but he’d got himself into a pickle with his finances and had to leave. While he was downstairs making tea, his phone went off next to me on the bed, I never looked at his phone but this time I was idly curious who was texting him.
The message was from his best male friend asking my boyfriend not to finish this relationship they had as he was the Love of his life, his Soulmate. I must have read that message a hundred times in one minute. Adrenalin flooded my body and I sat in shocked disbelief for a while. Wow, my boyfriend of 17 years was gay and he’d been having a secret affair with his best mate. Knowing his best mate I just couldn’t accept the idea and as is normal, my mind raced all over the place trying to find other explanations. One soon emerged.
Over previous months, he’d formed a friendship with a woman, in response to me forming a friendship with a man who I shared an allotment with. As much as I loved this guys company, our friendship was intensely cerebral, he gave me sparking Spiritual and Mental stimulation that was seriously lacking in my relationship, the boyfriend was convinced we were having an affair, which was understandable because I would skimp on the truth of where I was, as he flipped his lid when I went digging for too long, on retrospect it was a classic projection, as he actually was having an affair.
The second bolt struck the morning after, he confessed during the night he’d been “going for walks” with this woman, but “nothing has happened”. The fact that he hid this woman’s number under the name of his best friend just didn’t tally up with his words.
“Pack you bags and leave” said I.
He didn’t, wouldn’t, unable to face and take responsibility for his actions. I was a convenient stepping stone. He dragged his ass around trying to pretend nothing had happened for months after evidently telling his squeeze it was over.
OK Uranus, that is an attention grabbing beginning. I’m impressed as I didn’t see that coming at all.
I was so focused on what it would do in my first House, I’d neglected to consider what the echoes in the 7th would be. Silly me.
The third bolt struck in slow motion and had far reaching effects.
In the midst of the crumbling relationship, work and spinning a number of other plates, I had an invitation to join a Global Secret Solstice Giving Event, like a Secret Santa but based on the Solstice Celebration. People anonymously picked names off a list and sent a stranger a gift in order to become friends and generate warm networks around the Planet. This is not normally my sort of thing, as time and space already seemed in short supply and I didn’t need another plate to spin.
However, the invitation was accepted. The list arrived populated with a bunch of names, glancing over them, nothing stood out or grabbed my attention until I got to a certain name which danced around the page and had fireworks coming off it. It was a mans name and I thought, the last thing I need is a male friend after what is currently transpiring, so I carried on my search. But every one of my Spiritual Entourage screamed at me “Go Back!” Nah, I thought, not getting involved with a man on any level.
“Go Back! They insisted “You MUST listen to us, go back and tune in”
One of the many things life has taught me is to listen closely to my instinct, so I did. Backtracking, the name appeared again, tuning in resulted in butterflies fluttering around inside me
“Oh what harm can it do? He lives on the other side of the World” and with that, I picked him, sent off my choice and started to decide what gift to send. The organiser suggested we found our chosen recipient on social media to suit the gift we were sending to the person. I logged on to one of my pages and saw a friend request from the very same man I had just picked off the list. Weird didn’t even come close. I couldn’t work out the spooky coincidence. How come he had sent me a request, how did he know I even existed? After confirming the request I privately observed his page, weighing him up from afar.
Life went on, but things were changing, work and classes were quieter, the relationship limped on with the boyfriends refusal to end it and leave.
Just before the December Winter Solstice a package arrived for me….from the not so anonymous potential friend from the Gift Giving list. I rubbed my head for a long time trying to work out, how and why the bloke I picked sent ME a gift?
I sent him a Thank You message via social media and I eventually found out he had picked me off the anonymous list the same day, at the same hour…the ball began to roll as public messages became private and more personal.
He was an inundation to my parched river beds.
After Christmas, almost a year sine the reveling text message, I told the boyfriend again in no uncertain terms that he had to find himself another place to live, he was fragile, good at being the victim, but I drove him around the streets looking for somewhere to rent, eventually he found a place and left at last.
Having my home back to myself allowed me to spend numerous hours in cyberspace talking to the man I had befriended. He was intense, unusual, highly intelligent and focused. Cupid elevated me with Arrows of Love.
He flew to England to meet me and my family in person, which produced a fourth unexpected bolt from Uranus, he was fearless against their demands and expectations, knowing with astonishing perception the life long undercurrents at play, which he rejected on his and my behalf. Waves began to wash away some very old patterns.
Very soon after this the serious discussions began, how were we going to be able to be together? I lived in a city in the middle of England, he lived by the sea, surrounded by mountains in sunny and beautiful Cape Town.
The deconstruction began, as Uranus sent ripples ahead to my Mercury I was communicating a message that I thought I would never be saying anytime in my life, to my clients, dance students, friends and family.
“I am leaving! I’m going on an adventure to be with this incredible Being”
I moved very quickly, it was totally unexpected by the majority, who saw my words, actions as ‘out of character’ , Uranus will do that to your Sun, affecting everyone who has a take on the way you are, it wobbles the status quo.
Nine months after choosing his name off that list I was flying away from my life and all that was familiar, to a complete unknown, I knew nothing of the country or city, had no friends or connections.
Uranus, I applaud you, I could never have imagined in a million years that this is what you had up your sleeve.
At the same time Uranus was whirling through my 1st House, Pluto was slinking through my 10th, transforming my reputation, social status, career and ambitions. More than one person said I was having a mid life crisis and would be back by Christmas. A friend of mine who is an Astrologer begged me not to go as I was having a Uranus Transit and when it was over she said I’d be thinking WTF just happened and be on a plane back to England.
Well the transit is over, Uranus has crackled its way through my 1st House and is now causing mayhem for those who have a presence of Taurus in their Charts.
I am still here, dazed, renewed and not confused.
There are a number of events I could write about that happened in the past six years, however the most noticeable ones regarding the subject matter are, my slate was wiped clean, no-one knew me, who I was, what I did, yes my identity was erased on one level. This allowed me to re-invent myself, a new beginning, new pursuits and no preconceived idea from myself or others around me.
There is no doubt that people saw my act of Self Love as utter rebellion, My Mum still asks me regularly if and when I am coming back home. It is evident I had to move thousands of miles away to break the hold of certain familial habits.
The life long pleaser in me began to take a back seat and I learned to say ‘No’ even more.
The extraordinary Being I dropped everything to be with is a science, engineer type with a fascination for tech and radio waves, all Uranian type activities, you couldn’t make it up!
I finally had the time and space to concentrate on my love of Astrology and started a new business guiding people with this Ancient Knowledge.
My Artistic leanings took on a whole new direction as I wriggled out of previous judgements and constraints.
Did Uranus influence Mercury in how I communicated with my friends abroad and keep connected via the science and tech of Skype and Social Media? Probably.
Being free from routines and responsibilities was surprising, new found freedoms sprung forth within my own revolution.
I remember sleeping for weeks when I arrived in Cape Town, every time I sat still for a moment I’d nod off, at the time unknowingly exhausted from spinning all those albeit pleasant plates
Walking along the beach on my way back from the shops, stopping to watch strange molluscs create their art, constantly reminds me, as if I need it, that I got to realise my Dream, living by the Sea, without a schedule or a clock to watch, painting, relaxing, finding myself again, reconstructing identity, purpose and meaning. There are fundamental aspects of us that remain, the Goddess and God given gifts innate to our Being. I continue to use them in different ways, towards the same end.
I think about the bad advice my Astrologer friend gave me, not to do what I have done, to try and avoid the inevitable. She was wrong and afraid, probably that Uranus would come and upset her own apple cart.
The Uranus Transit through my 1st House, which contains my Sun and Mercury, forever changed me and my life. I am not the person I was, it razed my old ways to the ground and built something I never thought possible, making me take the leap of faith to create something astounding and beautiful was deeply challenging and utterly exhilarating.
I wish you all the best with yours!
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